strange, actually the config file I posted was without the volume control. I forgot I had taken it out. once I re-added it it was shown in the config file, but, it still doesn't display the icon for some reason unless I go into lxdecc and click refresh panel, then it displays the icon.
edit: maybe it's a timing thing and it just doesn't have time to draw the icons.beats me.
re-edit: though it draws the others. ??