SUCCESS!
thank you, the key here seems to be the command ifconfig
i will recap here if anyone needs this info
1. loaded pclinux fully updated on one machine and in the other i loaded livecd(both kde4)
2. in the updated machine i had samba-clien and samba-server installed previously
3. in both machines i changed ethernet settings to use as ip 192.168.1.2 and 192.168.1.3(different ip for each machine), both using the same netmask 255.255.255.0
4. in the machine with pclinux installed i created a samba shared folder by right click on a folder/properties and setting shares in the share tab(check samba)
5. be sure to set a workgroup, this can be done in pclinux control center/network sharing/share drives and directories with windows smb
in there click on the samba server/configure/standalone and click on ok, in the next window i created another workgroup but you can leave the one is there, this must be done in both machines so both machines are in the same workgroup
6. after this steps are done you can add more folders there or in dolphin, whatever you find more easy
7. to confirm a point to point connection i used the command ifconfig
in both machines i opened konsole and became root by writing su and pressing enter and then writing root password
then i wrote ifconfig eth0 192.168.1.2 -pointopoint
i wrote the other ip on the other machine but the rest is the same, i specified in the command eth0 because i am using the ethernet card on both machines, i don't know if this step applies for a wireless connection
after this steps both systems still report as not connected or error but i could do ping to each machine so there was connection but not the one system wanted
i opened dolphin and could find the machine that was sharing the folder and could access the files after giving a user and a password i created on that machine in the samba settings under the samba users tab in pclinux control center, this step is possibly unnecessary but i was testing if it was using the permissions i gave(read/write)
this kind of connection is complicated on both os(windows and linux) but on linux seems to be a little more complicated