lxde-halevt-additions is in the repos.
Once you have it installed, you can edit /etc/halevt/halevt.xml to add or make changes for your preferences. 
Sounds like an excellent idea, but ... I don't care for all the packaging dependencies. I'm running on a netbook with no permanent optical writer, so why would I want gnomebaker, etc.?
I just copied a halevt.xml from another forum post, and I will experiment with that.
With PCManFM-0.9.9 (most current version) halevet is no longer needed.
You mean this optionless popup that comes up when You put the media in? I have installed KDE4 iso and lxde on top of it. There is a gnome installed and xfce as well

I put the dvd into the drive and I get option to open it in the file manager...

... I was hoping to get multiple options for the VideoDVD or AudioCD, I was hoping to be able to default the choice for all similar types of media. Lets say AudioCD would always open in XMMS... Nope - its to much

- I can open it in the file manager and I think there is one more option... not sure. Where can I edit this super tool full of options?

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Andy