So let's try the simple

way.
Go to
/boot/grub/ and edit the file
menu.lst with root privileges.
You have at the beginning
timeout 5
color black/cyan yellow/cyan
gfxmenu (hd0,1)/boot/gfxmenu
default 0
"timeout" is the delay in seconds and "default 0" is the first OS (or option) in the list that you see at boot screen, "default 1" is the second and so on.
Edit and save (be careful, better do a copy of the file before editing) and look if that changed something.